Big question:to tell or not to tell???

Big question:to tell or not to tell???


This is old question,old as human history on Earth!
At first i have to point,I am from very traditional family and I even can not  think to cheat my partner.
I will never ever cheat..i would righter die that cheat my partner .
That's my choice and that's my way of life..but i don't judge people who looks in this with different eyes.
I start this post after i read an article about cheating partners.
Therapist there advice woman to be open and tell her partner about her little affair at job!
From my point of view that's very wrong advice,if you ever cheat partner don't tell him/her.
Most important ,of all,is to ask yourself why you have a need to cheat?
The answer on this question we all will find deep in our heart .
What i know for sure is that any of people who have a need to cheat partners are so very unhappy in some way and most of that people need help of professional..
Only very insecure person need to get prove of there sexual power by cheating there partners.
Here i only talk about people who are really in love,if we are in relationship with no love we will cheat constantly!

Postpone Women-How to refresh intimacy in marriage

 Postpone Women-How to refresh intimacy in marriage

To many middle age women are treat as furniture by there husbands or partners.
Most men after few years or even months in marriage start to treat there wifes or partners as piece of furniture.
Women is there to serve his everyday needs such as fresh cooked meal,clean underwear etc.
In to many men mind women must be happy if he provide financial security for family and even in 21st centuries to many men treat wife as his property!
Before marriage most of that men didn't act that way.
My Friend story:

My friend told me how her husband was so romantic and considerate.

He was such a good men as most of women can only dream of.

She told me about fantastic sexual life they have had during dating time and at beginning of there marriage.

But soon he start to look at her as mother and house-mate,this couple sex became once a week job,very fast and with no emotional sharing!

Years ago he stopped  even touch or kiss her.

Naturally ,my first question was why she didn't left him?

Why is she still in that hapless and emotionally very hard marriage?

She still love him and she lives with a memory of past days!

Second she find her husband nice decent man,he take care about children,he brings money at home,he has good career and he never ever use force with her.

Also she told me most people and my family find him very good person and she is afraid all people will blame her for break-up.

And dont forget children love him so much!He is such a good father!

In her twisted mind she see herself guilty ,she is assure thats she is not sufficient attractive after 3 pregnancy etc.

From the very independent,healthy,beautiful woman my friend become unsecured and depressed woman.

She is so afraid that she will past away before she will be able to feel as loving woman again!

My advice :

Its not easy way to fix this broken relationship!
First she have to ask herself does she still love her husband.
If answer is yes  she will have to find good therapist to help her  in first place !
After all this years of her husband ignoring,she need good therapist to heal her wounds!

Past few weeks i spent lot time with thought about my friend and her secret unhappy marriage.
From my experience i can figure how she were able to avoid this sad situation.
1.Partners,married couple have to talk ,to talk open about sex
2.We need to be open for innovations in sex life
3.Immediately ,when problem start we must ask for professional help
4. if your partner avoid sex with you:a/he dont love you at all
or b/he is not attractive with opposite sex
c/he has some medical problems




Post by Nini Estera Your comments are very welcome!

While You Was Sleeping

You slept.
The night before your departure.
I could not sleep.
I looked at your sleeping face.
Tears flowed down my cheeks.
These were tears of love.
Knowing how much I love drew tears from my soul.
For people who know us we're just an old pair.
No one knows how strongly we love each other.
I love you every day.
I love your every fold around the eyes.
I love you even when you are sad and when you're smiling.
I love you when you're a bit drunk.
I love you when you're hungry and rushed to the food.
I love you when you are angry with me.
Most love you distracting me while I cook.
I love you with every breath all over.
Love you so much that I angry at God because we have not previously met.
I love your children, I love my kids ... but I'm sad ...
I wonder why God did not give our children, our children the gift of love.
Love you know how I am sad,
I love and wait to be back.
A warm bed and waiting for you to come back.
Every evening, before bed I hug your pillow.
Your pillow smells of you.
Big size bed is so empty without you.

accepting partner cheating

When we think about partner cheating we have bad feeling and for partners its not easy to accept it.
I have no problem with that and here i will try to explain you why and how its happened that i accepting my love cheating with no bad feelings.
When we meet and when  Ken and me start our relationship i was married and he was divorced for few years.
ken was so so patient with me,he understood me and my situation,ken accepted that i will stay in marriage for a good of my children.
In that time,my present husband and me was living separate from bed,no any kind of intimacy but in same time we were very good friends,we both was so dedicate to our children.
Ken was sunning star in my life,he made me start to feel woman again and he was all i ever need from lover.
He is the Best lover,he know how to make woman feel unique,to feel very special and with his love for women and his wonderful sex drive i am blessed.
I love Ken so much and my love to him is not selfish love and i want him to be happy and satisfy.
Our relationship is on some way very specific ,Ken have kind of job which force him to travel a lot and i don't want to join him on that trips ,i prefer to stay close to my family,to look how my grandchildren grow.
We talk a lot,i respect his need to practice sex,and i thought a lot about what i doing to a man whom i love the most when i stay at home and don't want to join him .
For  his job he must be away from home few months a year and i know him,he cant live and function good in life or job if he don't have sex,for him sex is must have,as we must have food and drink for survive.
We talk and talk and in beginning,Ken is very open and don't want to lie,when he told me about little affairs with other women,i was sad and jealous.
With time all my jealous gone,Ken helped me with his love,his dedicated to me and my children and with his open  talk about his way of life when he is not with me.
We are not together for any kind of interest except love.
Love must make people free ,love is not jail!!!
Ken i love you you make my life so special!