To many middle age women are treat as furniture by there husbands or partners.
Most men after few years or even months in marriage start to treat there wifes or partners as piece of furniture.
Women is there to serve his everyday needs such as fresh cooked meal,clean underwear etc.
In to many men mind women must be happy if he provide financial security for family and even in 21st centuries to many men treat wife as his property!
Before marriage most of that men didn't act that way.
My Friend story:
My friend told me how her husband was so romantic and considerate.
He was such a good men as most of women can only dream of.
She told me about fantastic sexual life they have had during dating time and at beginning of there marriage.
But soon he start to look at her as mother and house-mate,this couple sex became once a week job,very fast and with no emotional sharing!
Years ago he stopped even touch or kiss her.
Naturally ,my first question was why she didn't left him?
Why is she still in that hapless and emotionally very hard marriage?
She still love him and she lives with a memory of past days!
Second she find her husband nice decent man,he take care about children,he brings money at home,he has good career and he never ever use force with her.
Also she told me most people and my family find him very good person and she is afraid all people will blame her for break-up.
And dont forget children love him so much!He is such a good father!
In her twisted mind she see herself guilty ,she is assure thats she is not sufficient attractive after 3 pregnancy etc.
From the very independent,healthy,beautiful woman my friend become unsecured and depressed woman.
She is so afraid that she will past away before she will be able to feel as loving woman again! My advice :
Its not easy way to fix this broken relationship!
First she have to ask herself does she still love her husband.
If answer is yes she will have to find good therapist to help her in first place !
After all this years of her husband ignoring,she need good therapist to heal her wounds!
Past few weeks i spent lot time with thought about my friend and her secret unhappy marriage.
From my experience i can figure how she were able to avoid this sad situation.
1.Partners,married couple have to talk ,to talk open about sex
2.We need to be open for innovations in sex life
3.Immediately ,when problem start we must ask for professional help
4. if your partner avoid sex with you:a/he dont love you at all
or b/he is not attractive with opposite sex
c/he has some medical problems
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